If HE doesn't want it anymore: My partner never wants it! When can I start cheating?
What to do if HE suddenly loses interest? When silence, withdrawal, and helplessness jeopardize the relationship, honest answers are needed, says sex counselor Regina Heckert.
For decades, it was said that women were less interested in sex . Nowadays, however, the tables seem to be turning more and more often: Men aren't interested in sex and are withdrawing. The women affected are then completely perplexed and wonder if it's their fault – is he perhaps having an affair, or is he secretly enjoying online sex at the click of a mouse?
Regina Heckert is the director of BeFree Tantra, Germany's largest tantra school, a sex counselor, author, and expert on female pleasure. For more than 35 years, she has contributed to spreading true female pleasure nationwide through seminars, lectures, and online courses. She has helped tens of thousands of women and men find sexual happiness. Learn more at www.befree-tantra.de .
An open conversation can help: Is he no longer interested in sex in general, or only when it comes to your shared sexuality?
Maybe there are other ways to get closer again— gentle lovemaking methods that don't require any desire. They relax both of you and strengthen your bond—without any sexual stress. Or would he be willing to try couples counseling together? Or is it conceivable that you could take a lover? Such an open arrangement isn't uncommon.
But if he doesn't want to engage in any of this, it could be a real sign that the relationship is on the rocks. After all, who wants to be sexually neglected forever? Then the only question that remains is: Do you go your separate ways, or do you come to terms with the neglected person getting what they need outside of the relationship?
This article is from the EXPERTS Circle – a network of selected experts with in-depth knowledge and many years of experience. The content is based on individual assessments and is aligned with the current state of science and practice.
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