Early influences: 3 sentences that reveal more about your childhood than you think

Most parents make every effort to ensure their children have a happy and harmonious upbringing and provide them with the love, support, and experiences they need. But even with the best intentions and wishes, we as children still sometimes have unpleasant experiences—after all, our parents are only human and can't control every circumstance.

Some experiences shape children for life

Children are resilient and can handle many experiences – even negative ones – well. However, some leave a lasting impression on them. This includes, and especially, the feeling of constantly having to hide their emotions and needs.

When parents or other caregivers are preoccupied with their own issues and problems, children often internalize that it's better not to burden the adults with their "stuff." They prefer to keep their feelings and thoughts to themselves; they don't want to burden Mom or Dad with their needs.

Hello, people-pleasing! These sentences say more than we think

This pattern often continues into later years. Even though we are now adults and responsible for ourselves, we often still find it difficult to stand up for ourselves and our needs. Those who had to adapt strongly as children therefore often exhibit people-pleasing tendencies as adults.

These tendencies are often subtle, and we have to look and listen closely to recognize that a person exhibits this pattern. However, we often notice it quite clearly in communication. Certain phrases, in particular, are frequently heard by people who experienced such influences in childhood. In the video, you'll learn what these phrases are—and why they are often so inconspicuous and only at second glance typical of people with difficult childhoods.

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