Selfcare: 6 thoughts to show yourself compassion
Hand on heart: Were you hard on yourself again today? Were you angry with yourself or do you think you haven't accomplished anything? With these sentences you show your soul: I am okay the way I am.
In crises, but also in everyday life, we are often incredibly strict with ourselves. We put ourselves under pressure, blame ourselves or believe that we are not good enough. We often lie awake for hours worrying about things that cannot be changed anyway. Beliefs such as "I did everything wrong" , "Why can everyone else do it except me?" or "The others will think I am a bad person" then circle around in our minds. In short: we show little compassion towards ourselves. Would we treat a good friend like that? Never! Time to pamper ourselves a little and give our souls a good feeling.
Psychotherapist and author Lea Banasch ("The others probably think that I'm totally okay") gives you a few guiding principles that can help you when your inner critic just won't leave you alone.
1. This was a difficult conversation for me and it was important. I'm proud that I brought it up. I can do difficult things.
2. It's okay to say no. I can tolerate the feeling I get after setting a boundary.
3. Today was a stressful day. What do I really need now to regenerate?
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4. Not everyone will like me. That's okay. I can handle not being liked.
5. I am currently racking my brains over what I said that the other person has long since forgotten. I am suffering unnecessarily. I am letting go. I deserve to feel good and free.
6. I did the best I could in that moment with the knowledge and opportunities I had. That's enough. It happened. It's over. I choose to focus on the here and now.
Try to incorporate these positive thoughts into your everyday life. The difficult thing is to catch yourself being too critical of yourself. But if you know your negative beliefs, you can face them with a lot of compassion and self-care. And that's exactly what you deserve!
Brigitte
brigitte
