"He needed to sit for 30 seconds, he sat for 20 years": why this sentence from Bref 2 causes such a reaction

The second season of Bref is causing a sensation. The fiction by Kyan Khojandi and his co-author, Bruno Muschio, received with rave reviews , has been breaking audience records since its launch on February 14 on Disney +. Some of its lines have already become cult, like this sentence uttered by Jean-Marc (Jean-Paul Rouve), the hero's neighbor in the series, who looks back on his post-separation period: "He needed to sit down for 30 seconds, he sat down for 20 years," he says.

Like him, many people question their desires and life choices. "This scene really spoke to me," explains Maëva, 27, who recently completed her design studies in Geneva (Switzerland). "One of my biggest fears would be to settle into a certain comfort of life, in a job that doesn't really fulfill me and ultimately miss out on what drives me." "For me, missing out on my life would be like sitting down for 30 seconds after my graduation in Geneva, and staying there for 20 years," continues the young woman, who has had the opportunity to study in three cities since obtaining her baccalaureate.

Achille, 32, feels good in Paris. He has a comfortable job, lots of friends and goes out a lot. However, he too is afraid of "missing out on his life". He broke up with his ex three years ago and "has been stuck ever since". "I'm afraid of forgetting myself, of always living the same routine through my outings and of waking up one day without having found someone with whom I want to start a family". He says he suffers from FOMO (Fear of missing out), or the fear of missing out on an event that could change his life. So, he accepts all the outings "just in case".

At 60, William has more regrets. "I spent my life working to provide a certain level of comfort for my children, without really taking the time to enjoy it." He is now looking forward to retirement to buy the camper van of his dreams and travel around Europe with his wife and "enjoy the time he has left."

The fear of not making the right choices, of suffering or, on the contrary, of being complacent... There are as many fears as there are individuals. In front of Hugo Décrypte , Kyan Khojandi justifies these fears by societal or parental pressures. "I have the impression that in our society, we are fed a lot of pressure, we are surrounded by injunctions, by "you have to". You have to find a school curriculum, a job...", adding that success is glorified, "less the path". "I think it's a positioning error", adds the 42-year-old actor.

For the youngest, the options are multiple, intensifying the fear of making a mistake. "We are in a society of the illusion of abundance, and it is difficult to choose. However, choosing means giving up and yet it is beneficial to live fully", underlines psychologist Guillaume Lelong. For him, there "is not necessarily a goal to achieve". "We can have dreams, but we cannot lead our lives as we lead a career. Otherwise, we are sure to fail", he believes.

In her practice, psychologist Aline De Rolao sees more people aged 40-50 who take "the time to sit down" and take stock of the things they have accomplished and sometimes want a change. "This often comes from an external element that leads them to reflect on their lives," she explains. "The first thing to do is to understand the reasons for this desire for change, to study them one by one and to see what can be done."

If change is uncomfortable, it is sometimes necessary. "There are many people who continue on the path they started to follow because they don't know where to go and it reassures them, sometimes to the detriment of their life, their desires and their well-being," she emphasizes. Listening to yourself is the key and "nothing is ever inevitable," concludes the psychologist.