<i>And Just Like That...</i> Season 3, Episode 6 Recap: Some Bad News

Spoilers below.

Carrie and her downstairs neighbor, Duncan, seem to be on better terms after last week’s upstairs-downstairs drama. Now, she’s having dinner at his place on a rainy day in, eating her first mutton, and talking about writing. Duncan never lets other people read his drafts, but he’ll make an exception for Carrie because he needs an “outside female eye” to weigh in on his biography of Margaret Thatcher. (Sorry, I have to eye-roll.) When Carrie tells Aidan about this interaction on the phone later, his ears perk up at the sound of another man’s name. Duncan? But he tells her some good news: His son Wyatt has enrolled in a wilderness program in Wyoming for a week, and he’s glad to see him taking initiative. He’ll be away, which frees Aidan up to fly to New York.

Miranda wakes up at Joy’s place to a nice hot cup of coffee and Joy’s two dogs staring her down. Miranda gets it—it’s time for her to finally get her own place. “I can’t become a lesbian cliché and move in after hello,” she jokes to Joy. Though they’re not ready to become roommates yet, they’ll mark another relationship milestone as Joy plans to introduce Joy to her son, Brady, later that week.

Seema is finally teaming up with Miranda to find her an apartment, but it’s proving to be more difficult than expected. Seema takes the attorney to see a listing that’s nearly “perfect”—except she must offer $150,000 over the asking price to secure it. Miranda cannot agree to that on principle. Seema’s back on the hunt.

Charlotte tries to keep her head low as she walks into the cancer center for Harry’s appointment, but she runs into Bitsy von Muffling outside, blowing her cover. She lies and says she’s just there to volunteer, honoring the promise she made Harry that she would keep his prostate cancer diagnosis a secret. After the appointment, Harry tells Charlotte he decides to take surgery rather than radiation; his doctor says he’s in great health and he doesn’t have to worry.

Aidan arrives at Carrie’s and tries to pull off a romantic gesture (throwing pebbles at her window!)—but it quickly goes wrong when he accidentally breaks the glass. It’ll be hard to fix because Carrie’s building is so old that the glass on her doors is nearly irreplaceable. (This glass is wavy and makes little rainbows when the light hits it a certain way.) Aidan feels terrible. And he’s already feeling bad because Wyatt changed his mind and refused to get on the plane, which led Kathy, Aidan’s ex-wife, to get upset the whole drive back home. Aidan promises to find a replacement for the broken door—all the way in Scranton.

When she wakes up the next morning, she finds he’s already taken off for the errand and left behind a POST-IT NOTE on her mirror. In a callback to Jack Berger’s iconic breakup methods in Sex and the City (“I’m sorry. I can’t. Don’t hate me—”), Aidan’s note is far more innocent, simply informing Carrie of his errand.

Lisa, a.k.a. LTW, is making headway in editing her docuseries with Marion (who is married, by the way). She’s so focused that she puts her phone on silent mode. But when she doesn’t answer her calls, her husband Herbert shows up to her office to break bad news: Lisa’s father had a stroke and passed away. She breaks down in Herbert’s arms. “That’s my daddy,” she sobs, in one of the most emotional moments of the episode.

After processing her initial shock, she calls Charlotte, lamenting that she wasn’t able to spend time with her father during his final moments because of work. Charlotte offers some support: “Work that he raised you to do.” The tender moment is quickly interrupted when LTW receives an e-vite to her own father’s funeral from Lucille Highwater, the general manager of her father’s local theater. These two clearly have beef.

LTW agrees to meet with Lucille, a glorious Jennifer Lewis toting a Michael Kors bag. Lucille clarifies that she moved forward with the funeral plans because she didn’t want to bother Lisa, but of course Lisa wants to be involved. Her biggest request is that the ceremony is not too theatrical and that she gets to give a eulogy.

Miranda, on the other hand, prepares Joy to meet Brady. As they wait, Joy warns her that she’s not to great with kids. Her past girlfriends haven’t had kids. It seems like a red flag, but Miranda sees the silver lining: Joy just called her her girlfriend! When Brady arrives, he instantly hits it off with Joy’s dogs, which means he hits it off with Joy too. Crisis averted for now.

Carrie comes home to find Aidan trying to fix her door, which has clearly become a metaphor for their relationship. He’s worried that he ruined it, but he’s really upset about something else: He slept with Kathy. After Wyatt’s incident at the airport, the two exes were there for each other, and one thing lead to another. Carrie is surprised but responds, “I understand how that could happen.” (Of course you can girl, you did it to him first!) Aidan apologizes for betraying Carrie, but she’s more confused about that. She thought they were free to sleep with other people during their break (not that she wants to); but he thought they were only saving themselves for each other. Aidan thought Carrie wasn’t going to sleep with anyone else for five years??? Both she and I are stunned that they haven’t had this conversation until now.

All the friends come together for the funeral of Lisa’s father in Newark. (Seema is limping from taking the PATH train, but she’s happy to hear Miranda has agreed to go over the asking prices of that apartment.) When Lisa arrives, she’s pleased to see the setting is simple and understated—until Lucille comes out singing “Magic to Do” from Pippin, glittery headdress and all. When it’s Lisa’s turn to speak, Herbert joins her onstage. She honors her father for always being there for everybody, from herself, to her family, to the people who performed at this theater. But when his time came, she couldn’t be there for him, which breaks her heart. After the service, Lisa’s stern mother-in-law offers her some comforting words: If you don’t get to spend someone’s final moments with them, it means their spirit doesn’t want you there; they didn’t want you to remember them at their last hour.

Aidan heads back home to Virginia, but not before running into Duncan, who stops by to drop off part of his manuscript for Carrie. Aidan responds with a somewhat suspicious look, but leaves the draft behind for her to read. After the surprise delivery, Carrie goes to the pharmacy and runs into Charlotte picking out men’s diapers. Charlotte can no longer keep the news to herself. She tells Carrie that Harry has prostate cancer, but she can’t tell anyone. Carrie swears that she won’t, and more importantly, she says Charlotte can tell her anything. It’s a much-needed heartfelt moment between the two friends—who cares if it’s happening in the diaper aisle?